Sexuality and sexual awakening were key for me to explore in this book because so often the “boys will be boys” attitude is still so dominant in contemporary society. It is not considered to be the norm or even healthy for girls to be aware of their sexuality unless it’s coquettish. If you’re not using your sexuality to get a life mate, then you’re a whore. That’s really what I wanted to work against. Women who are sexually self-actualized are dangerous, but only to those people who want to control them.
— Andrea Cremer, on why she writes about “society’s fear of the powerful female and its desire to suppress her” in her books. (via theloupgaroux)
“Unlock her repressed Malibu Barbie fantasies and buy her a tight tank top with FEMINIST printed on the chest.”
Just when I thought I’d seen it all … MAXIM sets out to teach men a quick, 4-step process to turn a human woman into a mere plasticine homunculus. Also, obviously incredibly transphobic as the images depict a ‘masculine-looking’ woman as BAD (regardless of whether she is a feminist or not), and says the ‘cure’ for what we are to assume is a diseased woman is for men to coerce her into acting in such a way as is deemed sufficiently approximate to the male sex-fantasy.
Sometimes I think there is no hope. Absolutely absurd.
“I think people think it’s a bit unattractive for a girl to be talking about things like that all the time,” says Szal, of New Hope, Pa. “You get a little stigmatized, like ‘pushy’ or ‘problematic’ or ‘troublesome’ or ‘a lot to handle.’” — I don’t know about anybody else, but I’m happy being called any of these things. Better than passive, meek or proper. Women who behave rarely make history, people.
Women who are fat are said to have ‘let themselves go.’ The very phrase connotes a loosening of restraints. Women in our society are bound. In generations past, the constriction was accomplished by corsets and girdles…. Women today are bound by fears, by oppression, and by stereotypes that depict large women as ungainly, unfeminine, and unworthy of appreciation…. Above all, women must control themselves, must be careful, for to relax might lead to the worst possible consequence: being fat.
— “Letting Ourselves Go: Making Room for the Fat Body in Feminist Scholarship,” by Cecilia Hartley (via anorable)